There are men around us who avoid relationships with women and do not understand why they always avoid marrying. Under the attitude of avoiding a serious relationship that you cannot make sense of, a man's inexperience, lack of education and fears can be found.
Stating that sexual fear is a big problem for many men, Clinical Psychologist and Hypnosis Specialist Mehmet Başkak points out that there are various reasons underlying the fear of sexuality seen in men.
"A man who cannot reveal his emotions or act according to them carries the risk of emotionally harming the person he is with," said Psychologist Başkak, who gave important information about the six leading causes of sexual fear.
Some of these reasons may be common reasons for you, but others may stop for a while and give you a review.
SEXUAL ABUSE IN CHILDHOOD
Fear of sexuality due to sexual abuse as a child is common in men. For a man who has been sexually abused as a child, it may have become almost impossible to open up and engage with other people in general. This applies to all cases of abuse.
Persons who have been exposed to physical, psychological or sexual abuse are likely to encounter problems with their sexual lives in their future lives. Of course, abuse as a child also affects other aspects of a man's life. Exposure to such harassment is traumatizing and can prevent a man from taking action for what he wants to do. Because he discouraged life. This affects a man's life in many ways, and it may not be possible for him to control it.
SUBCONTRACTOR RECORDS
If he has been exposed to or witnessed an unfavorable sexuality event in childhood, if he has not seen and understood a sexual situation that he should not have heard, and if this has caused a subconscious level of anxiety, fear, this will have a traumatic effect on his mind, which will surely affect the adult state. Consequences such as problems of power, premature ejaculation, or avoidance of responsibility for a woman will distract men from sexuality and thus from a relationship and marriage.
TRAUMA IN AN OLD RELATION
Those who experience a problematic relationship or marriage and experience a very difficult separation adventure experience a lack of trust in a new relationship, and often sexuality is the most affected area. It is not easy for many people to survive such bad experiences. The more severe the trauma, the more difficult it is for the person to get out of their shell and survive the shock of the event. Even if she has a great love for a woman and wants to have a warm relationship with her and get close to her sexually, it is not easy for her to leave aside her past experiences and fears and act as she feels.
DEPENDENCE
Addiction to anything can also cause men to develop fear of sexuality. The dependence on something affects the person's brain in ways that he has never noticed. No matter how hard one tries, there is no logical explanation for this effect in his mind and one cannot get rid of it easily.
Addictions, especially those that men try to hide, have a devastating effect. It becomes such an obsessive addiction that sometimes the eye sees nothing else. This applies to all dependency types. This could be addiction to alcohol, drugs or anything you can think of. A gambling addict could not go home for days and never approached his wife for more than a year. All sexual energy was channeled into gambling addiction. Dependence on something can take one hostage and be an obstacle for the person to develop intimacy.
SELF-CONFIDENCE PROBLEMS
A man's weak self-confidence and poor perception of his appearance also affect his ability to get ready for sexuality. If he has a perception that creates a weakness in confidence about his physical condition such as lack of peace with his appearance, seeing himself as ugly or underestimating his penis, for example; if he does not think he deserves to have a relationship with the opposite sex, he can avoid taking a step in this direction. Low self-esteem may have a negative impact on the way a man thinks, although it does not mean much to others.
Lack of self-esteem is usually a combination of many reasons and prevents a man from feeling comfortable or confident in many areas. This includes sexual life.
PERFORMANCE ANXIETY
Performance anxiety plays a serious role in the formation of fear of sexuality in men. If a man thinks that he cannot perform as best as possible at the time of sexual intercourse, or if he thinks the other party will not react positively, then there is a fear of having sexual intercourse at first. In such cases, men can benefit from counseling services such as hypnotherapy, psychotherapy.
Performance anxiety is sometimes accompanied by self-confidence problems. They have a serious concern of being embarrassed. Some men think that they can't actually perform the best they can in bed. This is not related to the opposite sex. It is more of a concern and suspicion that exists in them. Therefore, some men avoid sexual intimacy. Some men should seek advice from experts to overcome this problem and perform better in bed.
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